YIN AND YANG

YIN & YANG

 

This existence of ours has been defined in the form of pairs. Each and every living thing has been paired with something. A man is paired to a woman, happiness with grief, excitement with hope, despair with relief and most importantly love with pain. Some might say that not all men are paired to a woman, very true; but it is also true that not all of us have the courage to confront our emotions and not all of us dare to confess them.

Let’s talk about love. Yeah, one of the most boring subjects known to the commonwealth. I’m going to delve deeper than talking about motherly or friendly love. Pain has always been one of the side dishes of love. One cannot love a person without experiencing the slightest amount of pain, may it be rejection, arguments or a falling out. I believe that relationships whichever they might be are well maintained when both the parties have experienced the right amount of pain because we learn from pain; we grow because of pain, not in spite of it.

Every broken relationship gives us experience and educates us about affection and loyalty. Some teach us about betrayal while a few of them teach us about reality and trust but each one is lesson on both- the what’s and the what nots of a relationship. Sometimes even the friendships we make turn into something romantic, and once it does there’s no going back because then it would be the time to make a choice, a rather hard one- confront them or bottle them up until we ruin what’s left of the friendship we had begun with. Love is crazy, it makes us crazy whether it is for friends, our family or our passion. We tend to make decisions on the spot when it comes to our loved ones. Then there is pain, the more we love a person, more the pain we experience on losing them, be it dying or leaving. Unlike love, pain’s a bitch, we tend to make irrational decisions when going through it.

People say that a certain period of age in our life is just a phase we will get through but I believe that it is untrue. Emotions are the phase we can get through, we experience them, we analyze them and then let go of them. Of all of them, love is the most powerful one and the toughest one to let go because it links us to someone or something, it gives us the satisfaction of being part of something, it makes us feel whole. It’s addictive, once we taste it we either want more of it or we don’t want it at all because getting rid of it the first time was not cake walk. We can drink all we want or fool around until we can’t anymore because it stays with us and we have to accept it (to quote Robert frost-“The only way out is through!”).

In the end it’s the balance that keeps us stable, the pain felt and the love that helps us through. It gives us the courage to follow our instincts wherever they might lead us to. It isn’t always short and sweet or long and smooth but it always is exhilarating. It brings the very best or the worst there is out of us but it is worth it, for there is nothing that gives us the kick in life but passion, wherever it might lead us to.  We may not know it in the first sight but we definitely feel it in last.

 Truly,

ENIGMA.