SILENCE AND STRENGTH

 SILENCE AND STRENGTH

          How hard do we try to get someone’s approval? How much do we crave attention? Why do we seek validation from people who are just there in our lives, all those times we try to convince ourselves that we need to get an opinion before doing something or how it looks after it’s done, why are we afraid to lash out?

          You don’t need alcohol or a moment of weakness to show people who you really are; we can only pretend so much in our lives. Beating yourself up over trivial things like others’ opinions of you when half of the bunch won’t even matter in the near-future, it’s just a waste of time. Even when the opposition is made up of people you respect, the only person who matters the most to you is you, don’t be afraid to yell and the last thing you ever want to do is bottle everything up as if it’s some sort of ammunition for the future, you’d just end up being a loser who pities themselves.

          Being polite to every condescending bully out there just to stay out of trouble, it is not a sign of tolerance, it shows one’s subservience to bullying. Some say it shows strength of character, but it’s just something the ones who have resigned from putting up a fight say. People think it’s maturity to stay silent during conflicts and that “hope” is the way to move forward.

          If giving an answer was an offense, we’d never have been born, women would still be in kitchens and men would’ve had 6 wives and there would still be a concept of bastards and dynasties. Forge your answers like steel, and don’t give a fig if there are people who are standing in your way, do the math before expressing an opinion of yours, check if you’re being rational to yourself, if you believe so, just go with it.

          We waste half our lives experimenting in our mind, being shy and thinking that we lack the one thing most around us do- “confidence”. There is no such thing as gaining confidence by practicing the same thing until we perfect it. Fake it till you make it, right? Just believe that you’re good enough to do the thing and do it, it might seem paradoxical but that’s the only thing that works in real life.

          Unlike most people say, we are never prepared for what life might throw at us. Staying vigilant might help us see the problem but jumping in the field to do the work is all on us, we never know if we could get help from someone. 

          Never look for a leader to follow, many may come and go but the player is still you and if you’re courageous enough to smile in crisis, give yourself some credit and strive to be the person you can count on.

          When someone's trying to impose their superiority on you, you don’t pull your words or your punches for that matter. Silence is strength only if the other person is smart enough to catch up on the fact that you’re better. If they aren’t, call them out, you don’t shrink, you don’t explode, you respond in ways that makes it clear that they picked the wrong person. It isn’t about bullying or confronting your bullies, it’s about confronting your limits, testing yourself to see what triggers your last wall to break down and arise from your own shortcomings upto that point in your life.

Truly,

ENIGMA.